Infertility is more than a medical diagnosis — it is a deeply personal, often painful experience that touches every corner of life. Whether you’re at the beginning of your fertility journey, in the middle of treatments, considering third-party reproduction, or grappling with decisions about ending the pursuit of biological parenthood, the emotional toll can be profound.

11% of US women will experience fertility challenges, more commonly called  Infertility. Infertility  is an emotionally complex and deeply personal experience. For many individuals and couples, the journey of trying to conceive can be filled with hope, uncertainty, and heartbreak. If you're navigating infertility, know that you are not alone—and that support is available to help you through this challenging time.As a therapist specializing in infertility, I offer a compassionate, safe, and knowledgeable space where you can explore your feelings, find clarity, and reconnect with yourself. My goal is to help you navigate this journey with resilience, authenticity, and care.

The Emotional Impact of Infertility

For many people, the desire to become a parent is deeply rooted and long-held. When pregnancy doesn’t happen easily or at all, it can shake the foundation of your identity, your relationships, and your sense of the future. Some common emotional experiences related to infertility include:

• Grief and Loss: Each cycle that doesn’t result in pregnancy can feel like a loss. For many, it is a cycle of hope followed by heartbreak. If you've experienced miscarriage or pregnancy loss, that grief can be especially deep and complex.

• Anxiety and Uncertainty: The process of fertility treatment is often filled with “what-ifs.” The unknowns—how long it will take, whether treatments will work, what to do next—can create chronic stress and a constant state of worry.

• Shame and Isolation: Infertility can carry a painful sense of failure or inadequacy. Social media, family gatherings, and pregnancy announcements can feel like landmines, making you want to retreat from people you care about.

• Relationship Strain: Infertility doesn’t just affect the individual—it affects couples and sometimes entire families. Partners may process experiences differently, and the stress of treatment decisions and timelines can lead to conflict, disconnection, or loneliness within the relationship.

• Loss of Control: When so much energy is spent tracking, planning, and testing with no guaranteed outcome, it can feel like your life is no longer your own.

Therapy offers a space to acknowledge these feelings, to process them, and to build tools for coping and healing.

How Therapy Can Help

Infertility therapy isn’t about “fixing” your feelings. It’s about making space for your experience and helping you move through it with greater support and clarity.

You may be consumed with tracking your cycle, making doctor’s appointments, researching, and meeting with specialists. The idea of adding therapy may seem overwhelming-there’s no time! I gently challenge that view.  We’re  so often going- rushing to work, attempting to maintain a social life, running errands-always on to the next task.  When was the last time you didn’t look at your phone or get pulled out of a task for an hour?  Imagine sitting in a safe space and sharing whatever is on your mind-nothing is too uncomfortable or big. It’s helpful to take a moment to be-be as you are where you are. Allowing yourself that time and space is so beneficial for your health and wellbeing.

Here’s what we can work on together:

1. Validating and Processing Emotions

You are allowed to grieve. You are allowed to feel angry, scared, resentful, exhausted, or numb. Therapy offers a nonjudgmental space to explore all these emotions — the ones you show the world and the ones you hide. Simply having your pain witnessed and understood can be healing in itself.

2. Reducing Anxiety and Managing Stress

From endless appointments to navigating medical jargon to dealing with invasive procedures, infertility is inherently stressful. Therapy can help you learn evidence-based techniques to manage anxiety and feel more grounded. Some techniques we use are mindfulness, cognitive-behavioral strategies, eye movement desensitization and reprocessing.

3. Decision Support

Throughout the infertility journey, there are countless decisions to make: When to start or stop treatment? Which paths to consider — IVF, IUI, egg/sperm donation, surrogacy, adoption, or choosing to live childfree? What are the emotional implications of each option? In therapy, we’ll explore these questions together so you can make decisions that align with your values and emotional readiness.

4. Strengthening Relationships

Therapy can also serve as a place to repair and deepen connection with your partner. Infertility often brings up different coping styles, communication breakdowns, or unspoken resentment. Whether individually or as a couple, we can work on expressing needs more clearly, resolving conflict with compassion, and navigating this journey as a team.

5. Reconnecting with Yourself

Infertility can make you feel like your body has betrayed you or that your life is on hold. Therapy supports you in reclaiming a sense of wholeness, purpose, and self-worth that isn’t tied to reproductive outcomes. You are still you — worthy, resilient, and whole — even in the face of uncertainty.

Who I Work With

I work with individuals and couples across the full spectrum of fertility experiences. This includes:

• People trying to conceive naturally or with medical support

• Those experiencing secondary infertility

• People pursuing donor conception, surrogacy, or fertility preservation

• LGBTQ+ individuals and couples navigating unique reproductive paths

• Individuals facing pregnancy loss, miscarriage, or stillbirth

• Those deciding whether to end fertility treatments or live childfree

• People dealing with the emotional impact of reproductive diagnoses (PCOS, endometriosis, unexplained infertility, etc.)

Wherever you are on the path, you don’t have to face it alone.

Common Topics We Can Explore in Therapy

• “Why me?” and feelings of injustice

• Dealing with triggers: baby showers, social media, family pressure

• Coping with pregnancy announcements or friends getting pregnant

• Navigating boundaries with friends and family

• Guilt or shame around not being able to conceive

• Medical trauma and emotional fatigue from treatments

• Identity struggles: Am I still whole without children?

• Spiritual or existential questions about meaning and purpose

• Adjusting expectations and creating a new vision for the future

Therapy helps you sort through these experiences at your own pace and in a way that honors your unique story.

Infertility and Mental Health

Struggling to conceive can significantly impact mental health. Research shows that people experiencing infertility are at greater risk of developing:

• Depression

• Anxiety disorders

• Chronic stress and burnout

• Low self-esteem and body image issues

• Relationship challenges

Seeking therapy isn’t a sign of weakness — it’s a proactive step toward caring for your emotional well-being in an incredibly difficult time. You deserve support, no matter where you are in the process.

Why Work With a Therapist Who Specializes in Infertility?

Infertility is a specialized and often misunderstood experience. Working with a therapist who is trained in reproductive mental health means you won’t have to educate your provider on what IVF is or explain why a “just relax and it will happen” comment can be harmful.

I understand the language of fertility, from retrievals and transfers to two week waits and chemical pregnancies. More importantly, I understand the emotional experience behind the language. This allows our sessions to go deeper and offer the support you truly need.

A Note on Inclusivity

Infertility does not discriminate, it affects people of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship statuses, and cultural backgrounds. My practice is LGBTQ+ affirming, trauma-informed, and inclusive of all paths to parenthood (or not).

Whether you are partnered or single, pursuing parenthood or questioning it, your story matters. You are welcome here.

Getting Started

Beginning therapy can feel like a vulnerable step, especially when your heart has already been through so much. I want you to know that you don’t have to show up with the “right” words or have everything figured out. Just come as you are.

We’ll start with an initial consultation call to see if we’re a good fit and to talk about what support might look like for you. Whether our work is short-term or ongoing, my goal is to walk alongside you with compassion, clarity, and care.

Final Thoughts

Infertility is a life-altering experience that can shake you to your core — but it doesn’t have to define you or break you. You are allowed to grieve, to hope, to be angry, to be tired, to laugh again, and to heal.

Therapy offers a space where all of that is welcome. It’s a place to lay down all the stress you’ve been carrying and find steadier ground.

If you’re ready to feel supported, seen, and less alone, I invite you to reach out. You don’t have to do this by yourself.